Worth Is a Remembering

A few weeks ago, I attended a workshop where one of the exercises was a "meet your higher self" meditation. I enjoyed it so much that I put a reminder in my calendar to do one every week.

I don’t typically have visions or sense much during meditations. Despite my desire and effort to connect to guidance, I usually just feel distracted. But during one of my recent meditations, I had a vision of a skunk and then a heron.

Naturally, I was curious about the meaning of that. According to Colette Baron-Reid’s interpretation, skunk spirit is about knowing your worth. There wasn't a heron in the deck, but a little searching suggested it represents trusting your own intuition and inner guidance.

Know your worth.

Trust yourself.

I sat with those messages for a few days, allowing them to drift in and out of my awareness as I do when something feels important. I've been working on some soul-level things lately. The kind of things that cannot be solved with another list, another strategy, or another goal. The kind of things that hold up mirrors until I get honest about what is happening underneath the surface.

Then one evening before bed, I pulled a card.

I always ask the same question.

"What message do I need right now?"

I pulled the skunk. Of course.

I laughed. The kind of laugh that happens when life decides to make its point twice, just to be sure you are paying attention.

So I turned my attention back toward this idea of self-worth.

Over the years, through EFT sessions, therapy, coaching, personal growth work, spiritual practices, countless books, and many uncomfortable conversations with myself, I've come to see something that feels increasingly true.

You were born worthy.

Not with the potential to become worthy.

Not with the opportunity to earn worth if you worked hard enough.

Not with a requirement to prove yourself first.

You were born worthy.

Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught something different.

We learned to search for worth rather than recognise it.

We learned to prove our value through achievement, productivity, sacrifice, perfection, or being needed by other people.

Most of us learned this from people who had not yet learned to see their own inherent value. They weren't trying to harm us. They were simply passing on what they knew.

And so the search began.

I know it did for me.

I grew up feeling like I had to prove myself. Looking back, I don't think that's unusual. Many of us learned to measure ourselves through what we could do, accomplish, fix, create, or contribute.

We hold up our achievements like evidence.

Surely this proves I am enough.

Surely this proves I matter.

Surely this proves I have value.

But what if the search itself is the problem?

What if you were to stop searching for your worth?

How would your life be different?

What would change if you stopped trying to earn something that already belongs to you?

Because the more I reflect on it, the more I believe that much of personal growth is not about becoming someone new.

It's about uncovering what has been here all along.

Worth is not buried somewhere deep inside waiting to be discovered after years of effort.

It is already here.

It has always been here.

You are not searching for something that is missing.

You are brushing away the layers that taught you otherwise.

Think about a seed.

It does not need to become a tree before it has value.

The entire blueprint already exists within it.

Everything it needs is present before a single root reaches into the earth.

Your worth is like that.

It was written into you before anyone had the chance to tell you who you should be.

Before anyone suggested that your value was conditional.

Before life handed you reasons to doubt yourself.

When you finally come home to yourself, you’re not coming home to a new version of yourself. You’re coming home to the one who has been there all along.

The one underneath the expectations.

The one underneath the proving.

The one underneath the endless striving.

The one who already knows.

Remembering your worth is not a selfish act.

It changes the way you move through the world.

It changes the way you parent.

The way you love.

The way you show up in your work.

The way you share your gifts.

The way you trust yourself enough to follow what is calling you.

It becomes the centre of the ripple.

Everything expands outward from there.

Your purpose.

Your relationships.

Your creativity.

Your capacity to receive.

Your willingness to take up space.

Worth is a remembering.

Not a destination.

Not an achievement.

Not a reward.

A remembering.

Today, I need that reminder.

Maybe you do too.

You belong here.

You are worthy of taking up space.

You are worthy of being fully, authentically, truthfully yourself.

Not someday.

Now.

So pull yourself into this moment.

Be.

Notice.

Take a breath and look around.

Appreciate what is here.

Honour where you are and how far you've come.

Because sometimes we spend years searching for something that was never lost.

And sometimes we just need a skunk to show up twice to remind us.

If you resonate with any or all of this, you can find out how EFT for self worth can be an incredibly supportive tool on your journey to rediscovering your own inherent worth.