What Lesson Am I Supposed To Be Learning?
EFT tapping practitioner, April shares a real life experience and lesson in growing through emotional triggers with the help of EFT.
What lesson am I supposed to be learning from this?
I ask myself this question a lot. It feels like part of my own growth that I naturally lean into this quandary whenever friction arises.
The other day, one of our neighbours posted a really ignorant message in our community WhatsApp group. This person is typically quite opinionated and brash, and most of the time I just roll my eyes and move on. Because let’s be honest—there are eight billion humans in the world, and not all of them are people I like or agree with. And that’s ok. I tend to fall back on the old saying: if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything. I’ve never seen the point in unnecessary conflict.
But this message sent me into an internal rage. White-hot poker rage. On this occasion, I did respond—with a snarky and sarcastic message—and I don’t regret it. But I do wish I’d taken a moment to process my feelings first, so I could have replied with my realisation as well as the snark.
It took me a little time to understand why I got so mad. Here’s what I noticed that I hadn’t previously put into words: I have a hard line and a very firm boundary when it comes to people shaming parents—especially mothers. I mean, I sort of knew that. Shame in any form is unacceptable. And being a mother is the hardest job on the planet. Gorgeous and rewarding, yes, and it’s hard. But holy Lordy, shaming a mother is something I will always stand up to and call out, even if it’s just a mild undertone that others might not pick up on.
Do you know what I did next? I tapped through it. EFT to the rescue in an everyday situation once again!
That triggered response made me zoom out and look at the bigger lesson. When I did, I felt grateful—because it gave me a clear reminder that I’m here to use my voice to support and stand up for other mothers. Always. It can be easy to let little comments slide and not rock the boat, especially in a peaceful space. But this moment helped me gather a new piece of confidence. Even though I didn’t express myself the way I might now, I have the tools to understand my feelings if it ever happens again.
Maybe it was a stepping-stone lesson—because something bigger could be on the horizon where I’ll be challenged to use my voice. And now I know I’m safe to do so.
If you want to explore using EFT (emotional freedom technique) to gain clarity on some of the lessons in your life, I’m here to help with that! Just get in touch or book a session and together we can transform some of those old patterns.
